Man oh man, I don’t know what set me off today – but my anxiety got sky high this afternoon. It’s taken me a good hour just to get it to a level of better control. No fun. I’m trying to think about what’s churning around in the ol’ head that would make me feel this way. And what’s frustrating, there isn’t a single thing that tipped me in this direction. I think maybe it was just a combination of a few things that did me in. But … that’s not like me.

I hate to think of anxiety like a weakness – but sometimes, it is. I’m simply saying what is… at least for me. I won’t judge others – but I will judge the heck out of me. And I’m being a little judgemental on myself right now in saying that this “new” weakness of mine is just plain ol’ annoying! And I suppose what is even more annoying, is that I don’t know if my anxiety is new, or if I’ve simply learned to recognize it for what it is. It’s been 3-4 years now, as recognizing it was something I learned through therapy. And I’ve learned various methods to work through it and manage. I’d like to say to control it – but I don’t think anyone ever REALLY has control over it. Who knows, maybe I’m wrong. What I hate is that for the most part – and I mean 85-90% of the time – I have a great sense of awareness about my emotional wellbeing, and can use the tools that therapy and schooling and experience has taught me to ensure that I maintain that inner calm… but it’s that 10-15% of the time that I struggle. Today, being one of them. So – perhaps by writing, I’ll get out whatever is pushing me to that point.
Communication in relationships. All relationships – not just romantic ones. For the most part, I think I’m a good communicator. I am very good at empathizing and understanding someone else’s perspective without judgement or getting offended. I am also very good at reading people… so often, when someone shows they are a certain emotion, I pick up on it, even when they don’t think they’ve shown anything. I respect people to know that what they speak is their perspective. But as good as a communicator that I am, I also recognize that others are not. I think somehow, in my quest to become better at communication – I may have lost sight of the very real fact that not everyone is striving for the same thing as I am. Not everyone will be comfortable sharing their perspectives and truths with me. At least not right away – and sometimes not ever. Not everyone is striving to be an emotionally healthy communicator. And because of that – not everyone is ready for it when I present it to them. I think where I get stuck on that tho – is then what? When someone I’m communicating with isn’t on the same page or emotional level as I am, it creates the opportunity for a few outcomes. 1. The person hears me, I hear them, and one or both of us grow because of it. 2. The person doesn’t hear me, or I don’t hear them, and then they shut down and healthy communication cannot continue until things get back on track. This is often when unkind words can get spoken or someone can get unintentionally hurt. And personally – I’m not a fan of any of that, for anyone. So what’s interesting to me, is now, knowing this – helps me see full circle, why I became a horrible communicator to begin with. It was because I wanted to avoid that second option. Interesting double edged sword there!
Upcoming Vacations! So my vacation time is getting closer and closer! 16 work days to be exact. WOW! Putting it that way – holy cow! I’m excited. Some real time off. I’m also a little bit nervous. For a few reasons.

It’ll be my new car’s first big trip. Kind of exciting, I’m excited to see how it does! This will be my first longer stay with M. And I am actually not worried about that bit of it – but meeting his friends and family will be interesting and has me nervous – although I don’t know why. I’m good at meeting others, and I have yet to meet someone’s parents and have them not like me. BUT… i’m still nervous all the same. I think it’s because I’ve never quite measured up to my own family’s expectations – so it always makes me hesitate to put myself out there to try and meet the expectations of someone else’s family! Ha. Sad I know.

Grilled Cheese. I can’t believe I’m adding this in here – but it just came up. M knows how to make a proper grilled cheese. Can I just say how happy that makes me?! He butters both sides and gets a golden brown – just the way it SHOULD be, and has the perfect bread to cheese ratio. I’ve never understood those people who only butter one side. They say it’s less greasy – um.. hello?! It’s GRILLED CHEESE!!! What on earth do you expect?! If you want less grease – go eat a salad for goodness sake! Mmm. I will say, eating a grilled cheese sammich in bed is the perfect antidote to a stressful moment. 🙂 Even if it isn’t diet-friendly. It’s ok tho – I did quite a bit of exercise today – so I highly doubt this indulgent is going to set me back.
Trust. Sigh. Let’s just say that there are plenty in my life who’ve pushed me to my limits when it comes to trust. Some are still active participants in my life – others, not so much. Even I have to draw the line somewhere. I’m terrible – I often give way more chances and opportunities than are deserved. Sometimes, my friends give me shit for this – and sometimes, it’s why they love me. I spoke to a friend today who has recently broken my trust. I don’t know if I want to remain friends in the future or not. I really don’t. But at the same time, I care about this person and want happiness for them in their future. So I suppose from an outsider’s perspective, this is me giving them another chance – but it’s not. In my head – as the trust erodes away – even in small baby chunks, it opens up room for doubt. And doubt, my friends, is the silent ninja killer. It really is. The moment you introduce doubt into a relationship – it’s doomed. I suppose I could say that perhaps it’s possible to earn back the trust – because it is. But I’d also wager that it would take twice as long to remove the doubt.
Well – I think that’s it for now… writing in here, plus the grilled cheese… I’m a lot better than when I started. Going to go hop in the shower and get back to being me again!
Much love Neverland! Talk to you again soon!

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