Wow what a day I’ve had. Much of it was spent being screamed at. The ex. You see, it is his weekend to have the kids. And it dawned on him this week that he didn’t want to give up his valentines. He asked if I’d keep the kids. I had plans and said I couldn’t change them. He FREAKS out. I’ve heard guilt, yelling, and mean remarks about when we were married. He’s roared at me, and spun it around in such a way that I felt guilty. As if I hadn’t communicated that it was his weekend, even though I know I had, many times. I finally caved and told him he could bring my son home tomorrow afternoon. I asked if that meant he’d be taking them next weekend instead. He says no, it’ll be my weekend. I reminded him that will be 3 weekends in a row and he freaks out. I’ve just had it. I’m sick and tired of all of it. I still pay his stupid phone bill, I’ve paid 40K of OUR debt this year and he hasn’t contributed a dime. He’s shown up a few times with medical bills for my little one for me to pay. The last one I just told him… Figure it out. And now, I have had to change my plans for valentine’s day just to accommodate him and he can’t even be nice about it.
He finally said thank you. But then lied to me (I didn’t call him on it, but I know when he’s lying). I’m just sick of it all. How about the fact that I had the kids last year for valentine’s day. How about the fact that I had plans that I was honestly looking forward to FOR ONCE in my life and once again, he has to jump in and try his damnedest to ruin them.
Well not THIS time sucka! Not going to happen. I’ll shift my plans as best as I can to lunch and say “SCREW you!” in my head as I smile and politely collect my son. Why? Because THAT is now my job. To do my best to work with you, even tho you cannot plan anything, you’re wishy washy, inconsistent, and worse… completely and 100% inconsiderate to other people. Because it is healthier for you to stay in my son’s life than it is to not to. Because if I can teach my son through my own actions, how to communicate, how to handle yourself when you’re being bullied, and how to still find a way to embrace happiness, then I’ve totally done my job.
And that’s worth it, damn it!